To Tell the Truth
"…let each one of you speak the truth with his neighbor, for we are members of one another"
Ephesians 4:25
Most of us have been told from the cradle on to tell the truth. We’ve often been told but not shown. Even in the Church, which is often conditioned to “niceness,” there is often a lack of honesty and healthy confrontation. The failure to tell the truth allows attitudes of rebellion, control, manipulation, negativity, stubbornness, and self-centeredness to suck the lifeblood out of the body of Christ.
We often choose not to tell the truth because it may hurt, offend, divide or taste really bad. But like a dose of a bitter antibiotic truth can heal deeply, penetrating sicknesses of the soul – the ones we can’t see in ourselves unless the Great Physician shows us. Paul warns Timothy that there is a day coming when many “will turn their ears away from the truth” (2 Timothy 4:4). They would rather be told what will make them feel good than what will help them. In recent days, I have been challenged to treasure truth over opinion. One writer says, “The pastor is responsible to cure souls by speaking truth, not sedate souls by sparing them or reassuring them with fine, pious phrases” (Herman Dietzfelbinger).
In the same chapter as our key verse, Paul makes it clear that we are to speak the truth in love (4:15). The motivation of real truth telling is to save and not slay. An example from history illustrates the great marriage between truth and love.
John Woolman was a Quaker minister who lived in the 1700’s. He became very troubled over the corruption and disorder in one of his neighbors homes and believed it was his duty to go and speak with the master of the house. He tried again and again to dismiss this thought but the Spirit became heavy upon him. He says, “As I was reading what the Almighty said to Ezekiel, respecting his Duty as a Watchman, the matter was set home more clearly; and then, with Prayers and Tears, I besought the Lord for his assistance, who, in Loving-kindness, gave me a resigned heart. At a suitable opportunity, I went to the master of the house and in the Fear of the Lord, I expressed to him what rested on my mind; which he took kindly, and afterward showed more regard to me than before. In a few years afterwards he died in middle age. I often thought that, had I neglected my duty in that case, it would have given me great trouble; and I was humbly thankful to my gracious Father, who had supported me so to go speak the truth in love.”
Do we love truth enough to tell the truth and to be told the truth with prayers, tears, loving-kindness and in the Fear of the Lord?
To tell the truth and tell it well,

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